Peace and life in harmony with yourself are beautiful dreams. Lack of nerves and happiness. It sounds really beautiful, almost like from colorful newspapers, where everything is possible and very simple. Or maybe it is this one case from many, when in fact without financial expenditure and many sacrifices you can experience this harmony? Let’s try stoicism.
Once upon a time, when there were gods in the fairy tales instead of dragons, there lived a Greek – Zenon of Kition, which gave rise to a certain philosophical trend – stoicism. It is a relatively reasonable, but also a happy lifestyle. The combination of these two areas sounds abstract, but it goes hand in hand. The term “stoicism” itself is often associated with passivity, and in fact it is quite different. Stoicism assumes constant work on oneself to keep the body and soul in peace and harmony. The key is to reconcile with the world. But what is the gate that this key will open?
Three worlds: imaginary versus real
The world around us is quite subjective. Our image collides with the actual reality. Individual experiences decide on my view of what is going on around me. Therefore, what we think is only our imagination, and this in turn determines the sense of happiness. It can be explained that we seek happiness not in facts and events but in our own opinions on a given topic. Imaginations are a kind of buffer between our mind and the world. It is in this space that all kinds of feelings are found, from sadness to fear and to joy.
Fortunately, there is a way for everything, including misconceptions. They can be effectively counteracted by their own weapons. Pay attention to appearances, and approach the problem with due complexity. It is sometimes worth taking a distance, rethinking a given matter and not being spontaneous. Once we define a false image, we should replace it with another one – the real one. Put simply, it is control over your emotions and an objective assessment of the situation so that false emotions do not obscure your life. Not assuming that tomorrow will be a bad day, and allowing the actual course of events.
What we have influence on and what impact we do not have
The boss could not get along with the employee, so he dismissed him and he thinks it’s his fault. Opinions of others, political views, weather, social status are examples of things that are independent of us, that is, those that humans have no influence on. On the other hand, there are aspects that depend on our will, that is: emotional state, own will, disposition, goals, values, attitude towards the world. Focusing on independent things puts us in a state of stress and we are not able to influence it in any way – our stress is deepening. It is best to focus only on what we have a real impact on, for example, our work.
Let’s try to illustrate it for example. Suppose we want to improve the figure and knock down a few kilos. This requires us to change the way we feed and incorporate exercise into the daily plan of the day. Logic and rational thinking are the domain of stoicism. We will circulate without it. Instead of spontaneously signing up for dozens of different fitness classes, you should think about everything calmly.
Plan your success
1. Determine if you are ready to change – define your nature, predisposition, willpower, lifestyle, time.
2. Define the direction and the purpose of the action – set priorities, what you have influence on, and what may be outside of your reach. Determine what and how you want to do.
3. Specify the resources at your disposal – strength, willingness, ways, pay special attention to those you may miss, such as time and financial resources.
4. Analyze the consequences of action – a good idea is a list of pros and cons.
5. See overall – working on the detail, think about the general. Diet and healthy food not only contribute to weight loss, but also to a better frame of mind and a healthier body.
6. Do not forget about the goal – at any time to know the answer to a simple question: why are you doing this? You must believe in your actions to bring a measurable effect.
7. Multidimensional action – looking at the future goal. After achieving the goal one should not give up further development.
8. If the circumstances change, the procedure should be rethought.